North Of The Border

There were flurries in the air today!!! I LOVE SNOW!!!

My co-worker is not doing so good. We really don't know how long he has at this point. We are all just trying to take it one day at a time.

Life has been pretty routine around here, which is a good thing I guess. I have noticed that everyone has been a little slow to post. I guess concern for our financial situations kinda makes it hard for the creative juices to keep flowing.

I have already applied for our passports and we have been going through the house getting rid of a lot of crap we have accumulated over the years. It's amazing how I have been able to let go of so many things that I use to think were important. I am really making a fresh start. Other than our cloths we are not taking much. I am having my Native American pictures that I have collected over the years shipped down next month with some of the larger things that Abby wants to take. When we leave we are only taking what will fit in the car. I am in the process of boxing up summer cloths so they can go next month as well.

I have had the dental work done that I needed. I had two teeth pulled last week and I had a physical also. Need to use the insurance while I have it.

I had to go to the Dr. yesterday because I was having pain in my lower right stomach. They told me I have a cyst on my right ovary that is sort of squeezing the ovary. They said we are going to wait it out a bit to see if it will go away on its own. They gave my some pain meds to help until then.

I had a meeting with my daughters teacher Friday. She absolutely loves Abby. She did not have one bad thing to say. I am soooooooooooo lucky to have such a great kid!!!! I did talk with the teacher about the move and while she is sad that she will lose her early she is also excited for her. She and I discussed creating a blog for Abby when we get there so that she can write about her experiences there. The teacher thinks it will be a great way for her to keep in touch with everyone and also a good learning experience for the class.

Well, I will try to be better about posting more often. And I hope more of you will do the same. I really miss reading everyones great stories.

Ok, so I have several updates for you.

First, please keep my coworker in your prayers, he was just diagnosed with brain tumors yesterday. He is a very good man and he still has not gotten over the loss of my boss (his best friend) in march.

Now, to the up coming move.

We are in the process of getting our passports. I am having some dental work done now while we have insurance. I am buckling down and learning much more spanish. We are leaving in March so I still have time. I will be living in a small town called Zimapan in the state of Hidalgo. We will be living in the house my husband grew up in. His parents no longer live there.I will only be taking with me what will fit in my car. My husband will slowly send more of my things with his cousin that makes the trip every couple months. I really don't care about things so much anymore so its OK. The house has a microwave and a washing machine, whoo hoo!!!. I will have to apply for Abby to have duel citizenship so that she will not have problems in school. I completely understand that women there do not act the same as they do here, I am prepared for that. Abby's school will be a five min. walk from the house and town is a ten min. drive. There will be a couple people in the family there that will speak english, so until my spanish is great, I will have help. One problem that I will have is not being able to go to my own church, but his family knows that I am not catholic and they are OK with it.

My Cousin/SIL/Best friend is pregnant!!! this will make child number 4 hahaha we are all happy for her.

I am doing something I never thought I would do. I am moving to Mexico. I have put A LOT of thought and research into this decision. I don't want to be here anymore.
I am going to live with my MIL with my daughter.
My daughter is going to go to the same school that taught my husband, he is a very smart man so I am not worried.
I am going to help my MIL with her store and with her house.
My husband is going to stay here for about a year so that he can save lots of money for us, it will be easier to do if we are gone.
I may, in time teach an English class or two.


I know it sounds crazy but a major crisis will change your perspective on your priority's. Mine are no longer about material things. I want my daughter to grow up with at least my husbands parents in her life. I am also very tired of my daughter becoming more and more materialistic. I am going to keep up with her schooling so that she will be able to attend a collage in the US if she wants to.

I have already begun to make preparations with my SIL here, she will be leaving at the same time. She is going to help me adjust to my new life. My MIL is thrilled and is already looking for a larger house. My husband is worried about me being there without him but he does know that his family will take really good care of us.
I am ready to get away from a place where the most important thing is money, I want my daughter to grow up in a environment where family is the most important thing in the world.

The area where he is from is about 17 hours from the violence of the border towns and 4 hours from kidnap city (Mexico City). It is a small town where everyone knows everyone and there is a Wal-mart about 2 hours away. That isn't too bad considering I drive 45 mins to one here every week. I will be getting about $800 a month due to a past settlement, so money will not be a problem.

I waited a while to post this because I needed to do a lot of research and planning. I have not jumped into this without a lot of thought.
I would like to know what some of your concerns would be so that I can make sure I have covered that base.

Comments are welcome, even if you think I am crazy!

I am still here. I have wanted to post something for a few days now, but couldn't seem to get the motivation up to do it. I'm hanging in there. It seems sometimes like the pain will never go away, but I know someday it will be easier to deal with. Going through my parents things was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I got through it. My real dad never wanted to admit that he was my father because he had cheated on his wife, I was the proof. So when my step dad adopted me at 15, I finally felt like I had 2 parents who loved me.
Me and my mom were very close, we had been through so much together that we were more than mother - daughter, we were friends.

When I was born my mother had to take me to work with her because no one would babysit a handicapped infant. Her boss would entertain me while she worked, she made him my godfather. He died about 15 years ago. He had given my mother a teddy bear and a jewelry box shaped like a ginger bread house. My mother gave me the teddy bear after our car wreck. She told me that when she was gone, the jewelry box would go to me. It's sitting on my dresser now.
The thing I got from my father, I got 13 years ago. Most of my life I carried the family name of the man my mom almost married that said he would raise me as his own. That is until I was born, then my disability was too much for him and he took off. At 15 my dad gave me his name, something I had always wanted. And because of the way that Mexicans pass down names, I was able to give my daughter this amazing name.

I lost my parents last week. I don't really want to talk about what happened. I just wanted to let everyone know why I haven't been posting anything new. I am going out of town later this week to finish going through their things. I will try to post more next week.

I had my cousin living with me for a few months last year and apparently I eat a lot of strange food.

Ketchup on my eggs
Syrup on my eggs
Ketchup in my grits
I dunk my pizza in ranch dressing
I dip my fries in my frostie
I put BBQ sauce on my hamburgers
I put BBQ sauce on my mashed potatos

What sorts of strange things do you eat?

Sooo, last minute (of course) the hubby's family decides to go to Myrtle Beach for the fireworks. AAAGGGHHHHH!!!!!

Hubby doesn't get off work until after 12. Then he has to take a shower and get ready. We waited 30 minutes after that for his family to show up. We all load up into the two vans and we are on our way. It is a 2 hour drive to the beach and there are 6 kids, can you say nightmare????? We got to Myrtle Beach around 3:30 and they decide that they want to go to the aquarium before we go to the beach. Do they know where it is????? NO!! of course not. We stop to ask for directions, who do you think is elected to go ask? ME!!! At 4:30 we finally get there and who do you think is elected to purchase the tickets???? YUP!! ME!! Well after I stand in line forever and it is finally my turn, they run up to me and tell me they want to go to more than one place (you get a discount if you purchase more than one attraction at one time) so I had to get out of line while they decided what they wanted to do! I was about to my boiling point right about now. Ok, we got the tickets and we are on our way. It was beautiful. It was worth the price if not the hassle. Next we were headed to the Ripley's believe it or not. And once again they had no idea where it was, yup I had to get back out for directions. (by the way, throughout all this jumping in and out, I was seated in the back of the van!) We got there at 7pm and had to circle around for 20 minutes. looking for a parking place. when we finally got to the ticket gate, the hubby's cousin lost their tickets. We had to stand outside while they went to their car to look for them.
We didn't leave there until 9pm. 9pm is also the time that the fireworks show started on the other side of town!!! We saw 15 minutes of the show from inside the van looking for a parking place. We then spent over an hour trying to get out of there (MAJOR traffic jam). We stopped at a waffle house for sustenance at 11:30 just outside Myrtle Beach. Now, I am on a diet and I was doing really good all day so this really ate me up....I was starving and I was trying to keep on track, I ordered the chef salad, they tell me no-can-do we don't have any lettuce. OMG!!!!! Mumbling under my breath, I order eggs and hash browns. We finally got home at 3AM. I was tired, and aggravated.

Sound like I had a bad day??? Well this is how all outings with his family go. Welcome to my world. LOL